Not every couple who makes a separation decision, in the end, feels that they do are doing the right thing – most of them end screaming i want my ex back in their room. However, sometimes, only one person in the relationship still wants the romance to go on. If you are this person, then this must be a sad state for you. Most of us have ever been in this position, so we all know how painful this is.
The first thing that you have to do is evaluating the relationship that you had together. Any kinds of relationship evolve. Even if they started intensely and unbelievably beautifully, circumstances change and so do feelings. It is very good to look back at how it was and analyze the dynamic of the relationship.
In this writing, I want to discuss how wanting someone too much can probably be the determining factor in a failed relationship. There are, of course, other totally opposite reasons that a relationship doesn’t work: such as not giving enough attention, being too busy, jealousy, or ego problems. However, sometimes it is sad to realize that being too giving or too loyal can be the reason a relationship ends.
Scream I want my ex back !
When you were a child, have you ever had an aunt who liked to hug, kiss, and pinch your cheek in front of your friends? What about a mother who constantly sent text messages to remind you about eating, not coming home late, doing your homework, etc. Those are forms of affection. Those are expressions of how you were really loved. However, for the person who receives such kind of affection, it can be embarrassing, annoying, or tiring. If you truly have voices in your head saying i want my ex back then you should keep reading.
Look back at the time you spent together. Did you regularly show gestures of affection that he or she didn’t actually like? For examples: holding hands everywhere, exchanging text messages all the time to know about microscopic daily life details, or giving too much attention or surprises. Partners can feel suffocated for lacking of space. Small things that used to matter to strengthen the relationships can turn into boring rituals that drive the other person away.
Neediness and submission is a turn-off
He or she may feel very proud when we let them know that we want them, but to make them feel that we need them very much is a bad thing. People generally don’t like having to carry the burden on their backs. To get too attached to someone is not a good thing. It can make the person feels like he or she has to take care of us even when they don’t want to. Even if we love someone very much, it is a good idea to keep relying on ourselves and not him or her.
Besides neediness, people also don’t like submission that is done all the time. Always saying “yes” to your partner may be a good strategy to avoid direct confrontation, but it will make us less desirable. Nobody wants to be with a weak person who cannot assert what he or she wants for fear of losing his or her lover. It is important to take control of situations sometimes, even if we are okay to be submissive as long as our partners happy.
Be happy with yourself
To make ourselves more desirable, the best thing to do is to be happy with ourselves. Go and have some introspection about the things we need to improve. It can be physical such as weight problem, fitness, ability to perform physical exercises for an extended period, or bad dressing style and hairstyle. However, most of the time it is more profound than that physical stuff.
Analyze our characteristics: some of us are too selfish, frightful, arrogant, apathetic, untrustworthy, or any other bad characteristics. It is time to improve ourselves. Be the person that we will be happy to befriend.
When it is done, try to be happy without our exes. Stop saying I want my ex back Feel content about what we have. Be confident to walk alone. Sometimes, this is what the person who has abandoned us needs to see. When he or she sees that we have changed and we seem like living a very enjoyable life, our chances to get back together will significantly improve.